Oct 2020 | Lived Experience
Melissa is passionate about sharing her story to help end stigma against homelessness.
Melissa is a natural storyteller. One telephone conversation had me laughing, crying and eager to learn more. With a wealth of knowledge and experience, Melissa is passionate about sharing her story to help end stigma against homelessness and Samaritan House.
“I’ve worked hard my entire life. I have no substance abuse issues or mental health issues. I never thought I’d be homeless. But then life throws you curveballs,” says Melissa.
Melissa has an impressive resume of jobs including time as a nurse, employment counsellor, news director, farmer, animal care worker and many others. At 57 years old, a serious injury left Melissa unable to work-full time and needing benefits. Melissa and her partner moved to Lantzville. Her mother lived close by too.
Applying for disability benefits was difficult and required many visits to her doctor and the help of social workers. After waiting for over three years, Melissa started to receive her disability benefits. She was 60 years old.
Then her partner and mom passed away and just like that, her support system was gone.
When the disability benefits recipient turns 65 the payments end and Canada Pension Plan (CPP) benefits start. But Melissa never received her CPP cheques. Somehow, she fell through the cracks.
Melissa spent years trying to sort out her government documents and pension and then she gave up. She had a weekend job at pet shop and was just able to keep afloat. Then the pet shop went out of business.
With no money coming in, and no support system, Melissa’s life took a dark turn. Having nowhere else to go, Melissa moved into her niece’s place.
“They really helped me out and I’m thankful for that,” says Melissa. Unfortunately, this was a volatile home and Melissa knew it wasn’t a good place for her to be. Still, Melissa was taking classes to get out into the community and played in her Bridge club. She tried to keep going as best she could.
Soon, however, Melissa left her niece’s chaotic home. At first, Melissa lived in her van and because she didn’t present like a stereotypical person experiencing homelessness, she says she had a much easier time than most.
“My grey hair let me get away with a lot more than other people. I could spend nights sipping coffee at Tim Hortons without being kicked out. I could spend hours in parks reading and sleeping and, in the library, and no one would bother me,” explains Melissa.
Melissa knows she was lucky. Many people experiencing homelessness are kicked out or banned from these places, giving them absolutely no place to go.
Then her van was stolen, along with all of her possessions and important paper work. A friend took her to Samaritan House emergency shelter.
“Samaritan House saved my life. Without this shelter women in Nanaimo would be in deep, deep trouble,” says Melissa, who was 69 years old at this time. “Staying here gave me a look at what was happening with women experiencing homelessness in Nanaimo. And it was scary. Just 15 beds for women in this whole area.” (During COVID there are only seven beds available).
When Melissa was staying at Samaritan House guests could stay for 30 days at a time (now there is no time limit for guests). Then they’d have to leave for seven days before they could return.
During their seven days away from Samaritan House, many women would do day shifts at the fish plant because employees get paid daily. This would give them enough money for a motel room to spend the night and maybe afford some food. If there was no work at the plant, or the women couldn’t work, they’d spend that week on the streets.
After one-and-a-half years at Samaritan House, Melissa moved upstairs to Martha’s Place, a supportive housing unit where guests get their own space and privacy. During this time Melissa continued to work with support workers to figure out how to collect her pension cheques. Finally, after many appointments, telephone calls, and paperwork edits, Melissa received her pension.
She moved into permanent supportive housing is doing well. She has stability, safety and is looking forward to getting a dog.
Many people, like Melissa, don’t fit the stereotype of homelessness. There are many reasons someone may face homelessness. And with job losses due to COVID-19, more and more people in our community don’t know if they can pay next month’s rent.